I put this in another post on a long thread someone else started on emotional abuse. Hoping others can share some ways they've found to deal with the aftereffects of emotional abuse and/or neglect:

One thing I've found helpful is to keep a list on my computer of pointers, quotes, and notes that I come across in life or from reading. I add to it regularly, then read it from time to time or whenever I need to. It helps remind me of ways to cope, how my thinking may be wrong in some area, or just about things, about life, or emotional skills that I wasn't taught growing up.