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Originally Posted by VenusHalley
You pay a therapist for being a professional, not for caring. You have problem... which T can give insight in and yadda yadda. That's why one choses a therapist over a friend. A therapist who is acting like a paid friend... is indeed a bad one.
Just like friend my "care" much more when you broke your leg, go shop for you and bring you chocolates and books... but would you expect friend to fix your leg? JUst like you don't expect doctor do to much more for you then fix your leg well. Their caring ends with fixing your leg properly.
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my two cents
a) The issues that a psychotherapist deals with are so intimate and so delicate, and often so profoundly protected / defended by the person for simple identity survival, that any approach to them at all is considered a threat. It takes establishment of a deep trust to get anywhere near them - and in our culture (maybe all cultures for all I know) that type of trust level, that type of closeness, is usually found in parental love, or at least very
very close friendship. Still the T is not a parent, not a friend. And yes professional; I'd be a fool to hand over the keys of my psyche to some uneducated / inexperienced person, or even to a relative or friend who, however well meaning, will always have an agenda. I want someone trained, someone disinterested (that is, who has nothing to gain from the power I'm going to give them).
b) a person who expects a therapist to 'fix' them is going to have a long wait. that's not what they do.