It is true that you should get help for food, whatever, it will show you can care for your kids with others help. I have the opposite problem after having help I am now making it on my own some now. It is transition to doing it with help to doing it on my own. I can't say I am doing it on my own, I rely alot on my employers compassion and understanding. She has made me able to help myself as well as my kids on day at a time.