Ok, not saying this is a great solution or anything but I'm hearing you say you really dont want to end the marriage. Im also hearing you say you could not handle the open relationship he is suggesting. Have either of you thought of/ considered/brought up the possibility of a threesome? Ok, please dont stone me yet, friends! Im thinking maybe your hubby just has a bad case of the 7 yr itch and this might give him the feeling he is getting that variety he thinks he wants and you would be right there the whole time and you even have the leverage of setting all the ground rules. If this idea is just totally too wackadoodle for you I completely understand but the thought came to me and I felt it was worth bringing up