Hi BNLsMOM, your husband said some very mean things, I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I can only tell you from my experience that he sounds like a very manipulative man, I have one of those also. I have been dealing with being controlled and manipulated for years, I don't believe it gets better. I hope and pray you can get out, and, I have to believe, if your happier, your children will be too. I'm only speaking from experience, hope you don't get offended. Don't let him be mean to you, you don't deserve it