You're quite welcome.

I was moved by your post, because I do know how draining this must be for you. I also hope that some day my son will find a partner to cherish him. I would reiterate that you must take very good care of yourself, including getting some time alone and some time with people who replenish you. I can tell you what will happen if you don't: you'll be buzzing along, handling it as best you can, convincing yourself that you're doing fine, but your battery with be drained to almost empty. Then there will be an incident of some sort, out of the blue, and you won't have the energy to cope effectively. Try to keep your battery charged to the nearly full level, not just to the "I'm okay, I'm okay" level.

How long have you two been together? How long have you been living together? Sounds a bit chaotic with him moving in and out. How's your son coping?

The other thing you should do is to educate yourself about his dx's. This site should be helpful for that. I don't visit the OCD section myself, but I'm sure you'll find helpful people here.

Good luck, hon.