Hi Thousandmiles.

Thank you Riotgrrrl for your response. You posted exactly what I was going to. lol I'm pleased someone who's better with the HTML for the site beat me too it.

Riot is spot on...he is manipulating your nature (which if I may, I think chalks you up as a morally responsible young lady) into twisting HIS faults onto you. This is a hallmark of an abuse relationship...it's the hook. By making it "your fault," he keeps you wanting to stay around, to try to find a pattern of behavior that pleases him so he won't "have to be like this."

There is no such pattern of behavior Thousand...there's always going to be "something" that is "wrong." That's a sad truth for people like this.

You didn't do anything wrong! You didn't lie! He has NO right to question you as he did. I may be more forgiving of him had he asked something less personal about it, as I do understand that in this day and age, a small snippet of partner history might be beneficial to know. But he doesn't have the right to question you regarding how far you went with whoever. That's too much, and none of his business. It's foolish, petty, and disrespectful of your privacy as a person and your ability to make decisions as an adult woman. Don't for a moment believe this is because you "lied." Your "lie" doesn't make him as he is. He is as he is due to him, and whatever illness he may have. While I wish him all the best in bettering himself and getting out of the rut of whatever it may be, you deserve better than to be the outlet for his frustrations in this.

You are still in my prayers Thousandmiles, and I wish you all the best.

God bless,
Harley