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Originally Posted by kj44
Hi BNLsMOM, your husband said some very mean things, I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I can only tell you from my experience that he sounds like a very manipulative man, I have one of those also. I have been dealing with being controlled and manipulated for years, I don't believe it gets better. I hope and pray you can get out, and, I have to believe, if your happier, your children will be too. I'm only speaking from experience, hope you don't get offended. Don't let him be mean to you, you don't deserve it
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I can't tell if he is being manipulative. If he is, I don't think he is consciously doing it. It could be that his world feels so out of control that he is trying to control things like sex and love. I don't know...
He said that when I have episodes that I turn into a ***** and that it is hard to live with "that kind of person."
I just don't know what he wants, and I won't change myself anymore to try to please him. All that does is lead to depression and resentment. I have work to do on myself and I am doing it. He has work to do on himself and he has to want to do it. I can't make him. It is possible that we would have to be separated in order to do the work. I think we are going to sleep in separate rooms. I have a guest room/art room that has become a junk room, but I can clean it out and make it my own space.