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Originally Posted by BNLsMOM
We've talked about it in the past and that's when our sex life was better than ever. I wasn't able to go through with it when we got close to actually doing it. I think he will always want to do it, but I just don't know if I can get there. Maybe we can talk about it again and see what feelings come up for me. I am afraid that at this point, he would be paying all the attention to the third person in the equation and I would be pretty much sitting there watching. Chances are, I would just go out to the kitchen and have some ice tea and think about what I want to pack when I leave.
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How are you doing BNLs? I wouldn't recommend bringing in another woman for him, only to do if you want it for you. I did this in my relationship because I was bi-curious. So I told him I would be choosing, he would not be choosing the woman. I also told him that I need to feel like the center of attention or I'm not doing it. So I chose a good girlfriend who all the guys consider the hottest girl on the mountain. She and I had talked about it for years and about how we'd do a 3 some just to watch our guy go crazy. So bf liked it at first, of course. But then it turned to jealousy because he really started to feel inadequate like she and I were satisfying each other more than he was. We did it a few times (then she and I just hooked up without him for a few years). But now, he doesn't want to share me. Now, he doesn't ask for 3 somes anymore.