Thanks for the advice you guys. I was really glad to see that someone finally took this issue seriously It seems that, no matter where I turn, nobody understands that she really hurt me. Like I said, she was really crafty, and her timing was impeccable; she very rarely got caught doing this stuff. There was never any evidence; she was careful to leave minimal bruising.
I don't really have a choice when it comes to seeing her, to a degree. My nephew is only 2 years old, and I love him so much. If I want to see him, I have to find out a way to put up with her crap.
I have really, REALLY tried to distance myself. But like I said, whenever I do, she acts clueless and like she's all hurt that I'm avoiding her. I know she isn't really hurt....... but she is always talking about how she wants her son to have an auntie, and that she doesn't understand why I'm holding a grudge. I don't know if someone can actually be that clueless as to how their behavior has hurt someone, or if she's just being a douche.
I am so lost right now. What if I'm exaggerating the whole thing? I mean, I know I'm not fabricating anything here; but what if my sister only thought of them as fights and really doesn't know why I am upset with her? Does that seem possible? Sometimes, I doubt myself to the extent that I really do believe that I got what I deserved. I know a lot of people on PC say that abuse is never your fault, but nobody in my everyday life ever tells me that. (Then again, I don't like to talk about it, so nobody really knows how much it bothers me. But still, I don't think I have ever actually had somebody tell me (I mean face-to-face)-not even one single time- that the things I have dealt with weren't my fault.)
Maybe that's what's really bothering me.