Nothing wrong with taking the long way. I myself was on the 12-year plan for my bachelor's ... now have a master's and a successful career. I took most of my 20s to grow up, and then went from there.

I also do not really care how I look. I usually won't go more than a day without a shower, but I've been known to do it, especially when depressed. Clothes mean nothing to me, and unless I'm going on a job interview or something, I don't wear makeup. Just not a priority. You like me or you don't the way I am.

I think he's fine. I live with two overachievers and they drive me nuts trying to turn me into them. Being "laid-back" is A-OK.

CB