Dan, I struggle with trying to be super normal or "perfectionist" all the time. We look like we have everything and that couldn't be further from the truth. I feel everyone's that way. I've watched "normal" people crash and burn.

Life is about only taking as many stresses as one can, no matter what their limitations are. BP means I can't handle as much as others so I don't, I can't. No one expects me to do things I can't with my CP. So **** them if they want me to do more than I can with BP. I think understanding that "normal" is a range and we can just get as close to it as possible may take a bit of the pressure off you.