Hi all,

I have just joined this forum as I very much want to help someone who is in trouble. Hopefully I can also be of help if someone needs a listening ear (or rather, encouraging words).

I broke up with girlfriend 1 month ago after 1.5 years of a pretty good relationship. Recently however, I had noticed I had lost interest (not in love anymore) and that I was not treating her right as a result. I also noticed that she was becoming very dependent on me, and that she was seeing less and less of her friends. So I told her that I wanted to break up.

She was initially upset, but now this has evolved into what seems to be full on depression. Although I try to keep our communications limited, she texts me often and tells me that she's taken up heavy drinking, smoking. She doesn't see any point in life and keeps reminding me that in all he relationships, she has always been dumped. She attempted suicide recently according to her mother. Sometimes she has gone missing for days from her house. She won't talk to her friends nor to her family about our breakup.

I want to help her because I care for her (although not in the same way as before), but on the other hand I am concerned that she will take it for granted that I will always be here for her - and that's not the case anymore.

Perhaps some people here have experience about such a situation?

I would be very grateful for some tips or idead if you have any - that would be very much appreciated.

Thanks!