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desirae said:
Okay, I won't attack you because I understand.

In the beginning of my relationship, later became marriage, I was young and sex meant nothing to me. I'd just lay there, and pretend to be enjoying it, then of course I would do whatever he wanted for his pleasure, but ultimately I was unsatisfied, and did not care. Well after I had my babies, I've all of a sudden felt overwhelmed, and decided YES sex is essential in a marriage and I need it just as much as he does. But I'm still unsatisfied, there is no intimacy, romance, we've been married for 2 years, together for 4, and we've never made out!....I know, it's sad.

There's been times I've thought of other men, and thought of cheating on my husband. It's difficult when there's such a sexual hunger. You know, typically you would attract to a female more because of that hunger, not necessarily because you love your wife less.

I recommend discussing your needs with your wife. Sex is healthy in pregnancy, and it may help her feel more relaxed. I'd also recommend some romance and intimacy, although she has a bump, make her feel beautiful and sexy. When I was pregnant, feeling sexy was not there believe me.

Don't give in to temptation so easily, it would really hurt your wife if you cheated on her in her time of need. Just wait till you see that baby, your appreciation for your wife will change entirely....and hopefully you will be attracted to her in a different way.

Don't give up, and don/'t let anybody make you feel guilty for these feelings.....you know whats right and wrong, it's up to you to find some intimacy, just as much as it is for your wife. Good luck, I hope it all works out, and congrats on the baby.

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I appreciate the encouragement. In truth I feel guilty enough without needing to pile other people's judgements into the mix. I know what's right and what isn't, but I also know there are only so many things I can do about root emotions.

Believe me I am very attracted to my wife on many levels, and I am also very excited about my coming son.

We've tried sex a couple of times during the last 8 or so months. It just doesn't work out for her. I make frequent offers to just "help" on her end, but she declines.

Anyway.. I know what you mean about making out. For myself it's been a couple of years. I miss it

C