Me? I step outside of myself and forget about me for the moment. Coz no matter how hopeless I feel, it wouldnt do my friend any good to sink their boat further,and posting isnt always the easiest thing to do, so acknowledging that is important to me. So I concentrate on my friend, what they've been thru so far, where they are at now,and I find it within myself to be positive for them,If I am utterly incapable of thinking up a good response, I send warm hugs, good vibes, and I offer to keep them in prayer.