I realized that he was just asking this stuff to use me as timepass till his bus arrives. By the time I realized this, he got the bus and he got into it and just said - okay then good luck with life dude.

Oh man first of all I want to meantion that it is ****** when people do that...like when some asks "how's it going" yet they don't really wanna hear anything negative or anything other than "fine, you?"-yeah I'm sorry, people sometimes do that.

There is a responsibility on both parties. The person asking the question needs to be genuine in their motives of asking. I'm just a 7-11 sales clerk (I am going to be a therapist though) but this dude threw out there that his mom just died. Most people would be really uncomfortable trying to respond to that-it happens to be my thing though-so I asked him how he's hanging in. Brief interaction, but I think he felt better by a random stranger allowing him to vent for just a second. I bring this up to say that not all people are like this dude at the bus stop, and I'm sorry that you put yourself out there and got abandoned.

As for not having these types of people find you-you'll have to look for healthy relationships, and if your family is using you, it might be hard not to not default to what your used to. Someone who will not use you is going to feel different, probably someone you wouldn't normally hang with-it will likely scare ya at first. People doing positive things might be a good place to start.

I hope you find a genuine friend, or at least someone who doesn't make you feel used.
Take care,
-obj