I was blamed, too, not only by the person who abused me, but by my family as well.

Get this: Right before the incident, my aunt "warned" my friend (who abused me) that I was going to "seduce him!" He told me so! He goes, "Your aunt warned me that this was going to happen." My blood boils when I think about this. Man!

I wish my aunt had warned me about him, not the other ****ing way around!

That woman is sick.

And, about some of these support groups:

My friend (who is sort of an adopted sister to me) tried to kill herself because she had tried over and over and over again to get support when her abuser passed away and she got fobbed back and forth between bereavement groups and in***t groups! Either they told her it was her fault because she loved him or she was crazy to love him. Or that she was "not honoring the dead" or "forgiving her father like a good Christian griever"!

She could not win; kept getting the run around and more abuse by groups of survivors and grief groups.

She nearly took her life; my other friend got her some help finally.

She is in the hospital now. She is a decent woman who only loved and trusted her father; she was *innocent*.

It is never our fault!

Carol