There are better ways to get information than by breaking and entering. Why not just ask? In fact, BPDchild did ask us. Asking the therapist who made the comment for more clarification and examples would lead to a lot better information than what is in the files, anyway. Besides, talking about it builds trust and understanding while sneaking around does just the opposite. I am sure that any therapist who made a comment like that would be happy to help you to understand it, since they tell you things to help you learn, not just to label you or call you names.