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Originally Posted by Jan1212
Please don't judge I am having terrible thoughts and nightmares for some weeks now, it's been getting worse, these thoughts are on the way of ruining my feelings for him. I do not know who to talk to right now, it's weird if I talk to him directly and it's weird if I talk to my friends / family.
I ask myself what if he is? He'll have to tell me, I'll have to ask. but he won't, he would always deny, what if he's ashamed a lot of people won't admit.
I avoid talking and thinking about this, but I can't stop wondering, I can't stop , I want to stop thinking about it. I just need to calm down I know there is way you can tell if a guy is gay, there is no radar, I keep reading, but I even took a quiz to see his likelihood. I read a story from my magazine about a married woman with kids finding out her husband is gay after all those years - she was happy about it and let another man in their relationship.
Has any women thought about this, if so, did you talk to him?
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I saw a tv show a bit ago on this subject, and there was a man on there who was bisexual, and this is what he said: all being bisexual (which your husband would be seeing as he married you, in all likelihood), all it means is a man is CAPABLE of falling in love with either a man or a woman. It doesn't mean he WILL, any more than a straight man would choose to cheat on his wife.
Hope this helps to put your mind at ease a little. I too, have feelings for a guy who some say could be gay. Ah, but I like him anyway, just as a person. If we ever got together I would keep the advice of that guy from the tv show close to my heart.
By the way, what's wrong with asking him?