I think there's many people on this forum who would love to have a therapist like your who cares so much. I understand your fears, trust me i feel the same about attachment but why would you put her thru all this when all she is doing is trying to care for you? Can you imagine what it must be like to be worried about someone you care about, that they are going to harm themselves and then they go off the radar? Wouldn't you panic? Wouldn't you do what it took to make sure they were safe? Better to overreact and find them safe than so nothing and discover too late they'd killed themselves.

Give your T a break, and see that her actions were well meaning.