Elysia..... I am glad you stood up for yourself and I think you should try it again. Remind T she is the paid professional. I think sometimes T's do push , but not to the point that it frightens the client. I don't know anything about EMDR sorry, But regardless of the type of therapy or approach it should be to help you and not further traumatize you. You say your choice is her or nothing? The other choice that you haven't mentioned would be to tell her what you have said here and let fate decide. Sometimes no T can be better then a bad T.