I was basically raped a few years ago. After that I did not want to have anything to do with men. Until my boyfriend came along... He literally gave me my sexuality back, because he is the only person to ever make me feel safe and comfortable about sex. We are sexually active but he has a much lower sex drive than me. So we might do it 1-3 times a month. Lately though, we have had it a bit more often. I thought this was a good thing, I was enjoying it. But one day, right before my orgasm, I thought of *him.* The man who stole my virginity and raped me. After that I could not go on, I could not reach orgasm. After my boyfriend stopped, I felt dirty, used, and I kept shaking and thinking about the rape, I was basically having a flashback, and crying hard. My boyfriend comforted me and made me feel better eventually. But ever since then, whenever I come close to orgasming I start thinking about the rape, and then I try *not* to think of it, which causes me to think of it more! Then it just gets to the point where I need to stop. I am hating this so much, and I don't know what to do. I used to enjoy (and still do before it happens) sex. Would talking to myT about the rape more help, or should I try to not think about it , or what on earth should I do to make this better?