The clinician from the program I am in said today that maybe a little physical distance between us would actually be healing. Each person could work on their own issues without being distracted by being deep in the situation.

We'll talk about it with T on Saturday, but I am leaning toward separation.

My husband says now that he is not so sure he would move out, and the thought of someone else raising his son makes him sick. I told him I wasn't intending to find someone else to raise his son, but that the hopes of the separation is that we would continue to work on things so that we could be a healthy family, whatever that structure turns out to be.