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Originally Posted by BNLsMOM
The clinician from the program I am in said today that maybe a little physical distance between us would actually be healing. Each person could work on their own issues without being distracted by being deep in the situation.
We'll talk about it with T on Saturday, but I am leaning toward separation.
My husband says now that he is not so sure he would move out, and the thought of someone else raising his son makes him sick. I told him I wasn't intending to find someone else to raise his son, but that the hopes of the separation is that we would continue to work on things so that we could be a healthy family, whatever that structure turns out to be.
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These are the exact words of my ex when I told him I wanted a divorce. Took 2 months to get him to go. Even with all of his friends and family telling him it wasn't healthy for him to keep staying in the house. He moved into another room, but that was it. But, he wasn't even wanting a divorce and was at the "maybe we can still work it out" phase. So I find it odd since he says he's at the "I want to see other people" phase....
Maybe just a "I want my cake and eat it too" type of idea.
A trial seperation may be good. It would give you both an idea of what it would be like to be seperate.
Good idea to talk to the T about it.