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Old Oct 25, 2012, 07:10 PM
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hi,
i have been dating my girl for 7 months. she lives over seas and is studying. im 31 she is 23
her history. she has had one boyfriend which lasted 4 years and broke it off becuause they didnt get along that well and he never listened to her concerns. she was anorexic at 12 but got over it by herself within 2 years. she is very caring and sweet.
we met 7 months ago and she was leaving back to overseas in 3 weeks..we went on a date and slept with each other and spent those 3 weeks.
when she was back we talk every day on whats app and speak on skype everysat. she saw me recently after 6 months here for 2 weeks and went back.
everything is great between us. we love each other and send nice messages and letters and we have skype sex on the weekends...when together we really connect.

she lives with 2 guys in a shared apartment...which i advised against becuase i know what guys are like...she said she tried to move in with some girls but that fell through and this was the next best option...i believe her.
the other day she told me she and her roommates and roommate friend played some drinking games and she dressed up in a bruno outfit with her underwear underneath and also dunked tampons into alcohol...i told her that that was too much and not a good idea around single guys...im not ther to protect her.
she agreed it was too much.

the next week she said she is going out for a big night drinking with a few girls and guys and sleeping at her flatmates friends place. i said that isnt such a good idea and offered to pay for a taxi to get home...she said it will be fine.

i said if she does go back to that guys place then sleep on the couch and dont share with another guy.

a few days later she tells me that she went out drinking and went back to this guys place and slept on the floor...this guy then came home a bit later and woke her up and grabbed her hand to follow him into bed... she said she couldnt resist that he wanted her and went into his bed....she said to him that she has a boyfriend...he then said dont worry we can keep it a secret.

they then started kissing and he fingered her until she came but she said she didnt sleep with him or wank him and i truly believe that.

when she told me i was devistated and said how could u do that after all we have been through..she said she was so sorry and it will never happen again and it wouldnt have happened if i was there...and she was drunk etc.

i had a few days to think and decided to give her another chance and said if it happens again i will brake it off straight away.

i guess its hard when she is alone and needs me so much

right now im sorta trusting her but not fully and its hard to let go of what she has done and if i can tust her again?

she is also doing an exchange semester her next year for 6 months which tells me she is commited

please help with what to do

thanks

Last edited by darkpurplesecrets; Oct 25, 2012 at 09:58 PM. Reason: added trigger icon....