I have bpd, and I don't really consider anyone in "real" life to be a friend. Since I have kids there are people that I associate with, but not to the point I would call them a friend. I don't allow people to get that close to me. I know what the end result would be if I did. My attitude about this though has developed over time. I do have people online that I guess could be considered friends, but they have mental health issues as well so their understanding and it's way less stressful for me.

In the past my relationships, and that includes friendships, don't ALWAYS involve idealizing the person. Whether I idealized a person or not the pattern is always the same in that the relationship is unstable, because of my extreme black/white thinking. So.. a person that I like (don't idealize) can say/do the wrong thing, and that's it.

So.. it is possible, but from what you write it's hard to say. I get the sense from what you wrote that you don't have a strong desire to have friendships, and things seem to be fairly stable with the few friends that you do have. If that is the case...
1. Do you have black/white thinking ie. everything is either all right or all wrong.
2. problems with anger..

How were you diagnosed opinion by psychiatrist, psychologist or testing such as mmpi-II?

If you didn't have any testing and none of the above really apply then I'd get a second opinion or discuss further with your current doctor, because in that case it doesn't sound like bpd to me. The bottom line is you know you, and if you feel that it's not a correct diagnosis then it's probably not the correct diagnosis.