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Originally Posted by TentativeConnection
I told my T I wanted to stop therapy bc it was not helping, and I just felt worse. I told her someone else on the forum thought the same thing (you) and that you had just quit T, too, so it DOES make sense.
She told me (and told me to tell you, too) that feeling awful and miserable is not the time to quit therapy, it is the most important time to stay in therapy, the time you need support the most, the time most likely to be a catalyst for a breakthrough, and to stick it out and not give up, no matter how strong the urge is.
So. I hope you think about that and give at least a tiny thought to going back to T. I have started to just blurt things out instead of thinking about them, to avoid sitting in silence with my pain.
Also I email and let T bring up the issues herself to help the cat out of the bag.
I really hope you go back. ::huggs::
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I'm so glad that I read this now, actually. This hit me and it's very true. If you think about what therapy's goals are, then it'd make sense that leaving in a time of need such as feeling miserable etc would be counterproductive. You "finish" therapy when you're able to utilize the tools in given situations. I'm not the best at wording, so I hope someone can make sense of that.
I too email my therapist and she sits with me and asks me if there is anything in the email I want to bring up. I always bring a hard copy of my emails so that I can just look down and read off the paper, or give her a cue word, etc. When it's difficult to verbalize your feelings, being able to use other forms of communication helps.
Whatever way you choose to go Granite, I hope you can find the help and peace you need. Maybe another therapist more geared toward your preferred mode of expression would work better. My therapist allows me to express whatever I need, however I need. If I draw something and want her to see it, she's eager to sit with me and look over it. If I write, she encourages me to write my heart out. It's refreshing to be encouraged to do something you find "natural" rather than try to conform to other people's easiest ways.
Hugs and take care.
