The fear of abandonment is a core trait of BPD. It is the foundation of BPD thinking and behavior. When one cannot imagine an absent loved one or friend in their mind, it can be extremely terrifying, especially if that person is afraid of being alone. This feature interacts with other core traits, like splitting (a type of defense mechanism), and a tenuous sense of identity, which usually leads to emotional dysregulation. All this makes navigating relationships difficult.

Learn as much as you can about the disorder. Do some honest introspection. Ask yourself why you don’t have real relationships. Perhaps the answer is hidden it that.

If you still feel the condition does not describe you, seek a second opinion. There is the possibility you have been misdiagnosed, since other conditions resemble BPD. Things to consider are: medication side effects; other psychiatric disorders; substance abuse/addiction; hormonal conditions; epilepsy and other neurological disorders; and the environment you live in (dysfunction can influence behavior).