Hello to all of you---and a huge THANKS for your messages. It greatly helps to hear different perspectives. My husband and I do think our daughter is in danger---but how do we handle it? She and her husband live on the opposite coast. He is very aware, medically, but I'm afraid she is so good at denial and deceit that if she were seeing a doctor regularly, she would lie about what he said. We know we will have to risk our relationship with her however we proceed. We have thought about calling her mother in law, who would respect the confidentiality, and get her opinion of the issue. She sees our daughter and husband more frequently, and is a precious woman. We'd like to talk our daughter's husband, but that would need to be face to face, which won't happen for a couple of months. We need suggestions on how to proceed to get to the truth. We know that anorexia is not something that she can deal with on her own; but the first step is getting her to admit she needs help, which means some kind of intervention. Please let me know of any experience, suggestions, etc. The dynamics of the relationship are dicey---interference of any kind in "privacy" makes us the villians, so we are very, very careful to not intrude. (typical of young marrieds---but this is literally a life and death issue." Thanks again.