It is really frustrating because up until a month or so ago, she really seemed like she was over her marriage years ago. They lived at his fathers house for the past three years and hadn't slept in the same bed that entire time and their sex life was dismal ( once every two months or so). He treated her poorly never accompanied her anywhere, including his work Christmas parties which he attended alone and would verbally abuse and intimidate her. To top it all off he drives a BMW at the expense of his family not having a place of their own. I treat her great, we have fun I make her laugh and feel appreciated I even enrolled in some college courses she is in to be able to share more with her and to help her. Our sex life is fantastic and frankly I'm better looking! I'm hoping this is just a normal part of the process of leaving all you've known your entire adult life. I also think that since her boys now live with their father full time, she is missing them and therefore missing her old life. I see it in her face and it breaks my heart. I want to grab her and yell "don't you see how much I love you and how much you mean to me! He tested you like ****! That's why you left!" Thanks so much for the replies, it means so much to me! I really appreciate the support and the feedback.