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Old Oct 26, 2012, 04:30 PM
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Originally Posted by elysia View Post
Thanks so much for your response.

I know I'm supposed to bring this up but right now somehow I can't. I haven't slept or eaten since the session. I feel so much anxiety and dread inside at just the thought of returning to her, that criticizing her right now is too much for me (esp cause she expresses frustration and dissatisfaction at me doing so). I know it's the right thing to do. Though I'm not DID, the traumatized part of me is very young. Doing this exercise without a prior explanation was terrifying to that part, and the thought of confronting someone older and in authority (T is older than the adult me) is too much for that part. That part doesn't have the tools to do it, which means I don't either. I feel like I have to choose my words carefully so I don't cause a rift with T. I have no idea how to strike a balance between saying how I feel vs being careful not to offend T. Not in a good place right now.
You are not criticizing her if you just state what you want - and you do not have to make excuses for that either. Just simply say "I want to move slower".

That's it.

Not, you are moving too fast and you suck as a person (that's criticism) or "I'm sorry I don't know what to offend you but (insert offensive statement here).

Just simply state it in terms of what you want.

What she does with that it up to her.
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