One thing is certain.... you can have an " emotional affair" without even realizing it... I heard Dr. Phil say once that if you are doing something or saying something you wouldn't do or say in front of your wife, then you shouldn't be doing it.

It is obvious you love her or you wouldn't be trying to figure out what to do to keep yourself where you belong.. with her.Maybe you should try reading Dr.Phil's book " Relationship Rescue" He is a pretty smart guy most of the time.

Good Luck and congrats on becoming a Dad... which should factor in on what you decide to do too because it will affect the baby....