Hey I totally get what your are saying. My hubby is the same way. He gets so jealous. I 'm not doing anything wrong. I used to talk to my H's brother about stuff. Life w/ him is simple and easy. He has some of the same mental issues I have and we can relate. Thats all. We can relate. I can't relate to my H because of his bitterness. My H says I've been unfaithfull. But no where do I sse anything that says you can't talk to someone. It's not like I want to be on Jerry Springer or anything. (you know "Woman leaves husband for his brother" ) He's a friend. Thats all. Never thought about anything more. I do no how you feel. I have cut all ties to my brother in law. It kills me everyday to hear he is not doing well and I ca't even reach out to help. I was using a calling card when I would contact him so that my H would not give me grief over talking to him. My H would be sure to be the one to answer the phone, I'd have to tell him who I'd talked to durring the day and who called me and who I'd called. My H won. He got his way but he has hurt me and things are not the same between us. So really he lost nd it's not a game of win or lose anymore. It's a thing called control and I am having a hard time forgiving and loving you for being so self centered.

Well I know that's not much help. I needed to vent a little myself, but know you are not alone. You are always welcome to post anything you would like or need to here at PC.
I wish you the best of luck w/ your situation. Keep talking to us.