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Originally Posted by elysia
Thanks elliemay, it's a good idea. One part I can do that. The other thing, she hinted at me leaving her because I can't do what she wants (physically can't, not won't). I want to discuss that, too, but not sure how to do that without coming across as saying, "you stink because you said this." This is a T who dishes it out but can't take it, must tread carefully.
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Again, I would have likely phrased this as "I want to feel safe here" rather than "you make me feel unsafe here".
See the difference?
I know you said that you don't have a lot of options except for this therapist but there are always options. Always. You just haven't considered them yet. Skype, etc...
You aren't trapped.
There is an old saying "Better the evil known than the evil unknown". Bottom line, you don't have to settle - negotiate a better way perhaps for you both to move forward yes, but settle... no.