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Originally Posted by autotelica
This place would be very unhelpful if support always meant hugs and kisses, never any advice or different perspectives.
Just like therapy would be very unhelpful if it was just a place where all of our thoughts and feelings were validated and we were never challenged or pushed or encouraged to change.
I don't think you are a bad person at all. A confusing person, yeah, but so is just about everyone else who posts here. You asked how your behavior could hurt someone, and I only posted to give my perspective. If it was not wanted, then you should not have asked that particular question.
I am glad this problem resolved itself without any further incident, and I hope you can continue seeing your therapist.
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I asked for specific examples, which wasn't given, just a bunch of "yes I agree you're abusive." over and over. No, that didn't help me feel good. If I was in a better place emotionally I would have just ignored empty in the first place, but I wasn't and I didn't.
Sometimes yes, I think I do/say mean things to my therapist. But I don't think any of it can be considered abusive, and she gives as good as she gets. She also understands where I'm coming from and knows/accepts that being bitten is a part of the process. She is willing to be with me anyway, even if she gets bitten or scratched. And holding back won't help me erase the behavior and she doesn't want me to hold back. She wants me to trust her and is willing to have some bites and scratches in order to get me there.