I've recently realized that my mental health issues are probably a fair sight closer to BPD than a straight anxiety disorder. I'm working with a therapist, which is helping some, but I still have major anxiety attacks once or twice a week that leave me not really being able to make any progress with anything before getting set back by spending an entire evening panicking about how no one will ever love me, and all my friends are pulling away, and I'll never be able to get a job, which leaves me stuck in my apartment in tears, feeling like my rib cage is collapsing.
I want to meet with a psychiatrist and ask about PRN anxiety meds, (I've hated all the things I've tried that were continuous, since they all left me with weird amounts of focus and surreal dreams, and I don't like the idea of always being drugged up) but that's basically the same as me going in and asking for benzos of some type, since they're the only PRN anxiety med out there. Will this get me labeled as med seeking, and turned down automatically?

In another related question, does it make sense for me to ask about mood stabilizers to try and deal with the rapid swings from being perfectly normal to crushing depression and anxiety, or do mood stabilizers really only help with manic episodes, not the low end of the spectrum?
Thanks in advance.

(I also posted this on another bpd forum, but I wanted to post here as well to try and get as much feedback as possible)