Hey Emily,
"I want to meet with a psychiatrist and ask about PRN anxiety meds, (I've hated all the things I've tried that were continuous, since they all left me with weird amounts of focus and surreal dreams, and I don't like the idea of always being drugged up) but that's basically the same as me going in and asking for benzos of some type, since they're the only PRN anxiety med out there. Will this get me labeled as med seeking, and turned down automatically?"
Firstly there are so many types of medications for anxiety in the 'antidepressant' category that it's still possible to find one with not too many side effects that works for you. I use PRNs for anxiety, they help at the time, but they don't change much in the big picture (but then again you must know this, too). PRN type meds just mask symptoms, they don't change anything, but they do help when things get overwhelming.
As far as being labelled 'drug seeking' I don't see it as a problem in asking your pdoc to try it out, that is if you don't have a history of drug abuse or drug-seeking behavior, otherwise they will most likely try something else.
But, hey I personally don't see a problem with you talking openly about your choice in meds.
Also , I don't have any experience with mood stabilizers, but I'm sure others here may have some input for you.
Best of luck.