I don't know. I have to think the same thing as phaps on this...if it was such a good relationship why did it end? The other thing too, many marraiges/relationships hit bumps in the road when you add in children. The grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence. Also, how could two people that pledged their love to two separate people ever truly trust one another? What does that say for one's moral character? I don't mean to be harsh here, but think ahead....way ahead. There was a reason why that first relationship ended, maybe you cannot see or recall it right now cause there is turmoil in your life, but you took a vow to your wife, and it's not fair to put another before her. Is there someone independent of the exlover you can speak to about your problems, it's never good to collaborate, or discuss stuff with an old flame, it just brings up old feelings. I say, perhaps speak with a counselor? or pastor? or someone trusted about your feelings and where they really stem from. Ask yourself what your vows mean? And can you take what comes with breaking it off? There will undoubtedly be a lot of hurt feelings on both sides, and upheaval, and most likely bitterness. Your new life with this old flame may not be any better than what you have now, or possibly even worse, and you possibly one or both of you regret the decisions you make. But by then, you would not be able to turn back time.

I hope you can find your answer. Just seems like a real hard place to be in. I, personally, wouldn't make a move on anything until I know I really worked it out-like counseling, and gave 100% of myself to it. I don't like to walk away with doubt, once you close a door, it's best to leave it closed right? Best of Luck.