I sympathize with the difficulty of finding anyone with a true understanding of your situation who isn't similarly afflicted.

I'm afraid I have even known those who might possibly be more messed up than I who still didn't understand, as you or I would, the difficulties involved, and the impossibility of simply "getting over it." It's unfortunate, but common, if that makes you fell any better.

However, I think you have the right idea. Education is the way to go. Get as much material in front of him as you can and see to it he reads it. Just my 2 cents...

Good luck, take care.