Hi, I understand what it means to be 'traumatized' with the thoughts of sex. I think it seems to be for me the years of my younger days that I had the sex=love. I thought that sex was actually required to be in a loving relationship or that a relationship could not even be possible without sex. I think that the media and on TV it is like if your not having sex right away in the relationship that there is something wrong with you.

I have been celibate for over 4 years now and the thought of an intimate relationship without sex even scares me as I have been hurt too many times to be able to trust another as it is right now in my life, I have a difficult time with friendship level relationships and even that is difficult.

I think that if a person is in love that as the others say it meens that they are willing to wait until you are ready to go to the next step or next level in the relatinship and would understand and respect the fact that sex scares you and be supportive from the start to be understaning in your fears of intimacy and as trust is earned, be able to wait until they have earned your trust no matter how many weeks, months, years it takes for you to be ready to know for sure that it would not traumatize you to be intimate with them and stand by you until then.