hello jhunter,
youre very welcome hun. i think getting a script together of what youre going to say to her is a great idea. it better helps you plan out your thoughts about the situation, and gives you time to process things, rather than just saying the first thing that comes to mind, which might not be the right thing to say at the time. ill answer your questions in the order you asked them.
1st question - i'm 4'8"....very short hahaha...90 pounds is on the low side of what i can safely weigh.
2nd question - it took me a very long time to reconcile with my parents, because i hated them so much for interferring in my personal life. i guess things started getting better about 4 years after the eating disorder had begun. however, now, we are back to hating each other, due to the fact that i went against them when they said they hated my husband. if they dont like him, then thats their problem, but i love him, so im going to do what i feel is the right thing to do.
3rd question - my eating disorder started at the age of 13. i dropped down to 75 pounds, within the year. so it took less than a year for me to drop the weight so quickly.
4th question - right now there isnt anyone keeping me on track and holding me accountable for my issues, other than my husband. i have a psych appt. for the first time, since ive moved here to Sheffield, on aug. 30. i will be taken on by a team of psychiatrists at the hospital. well see how it goes.
i hope this helps. please keep me informed, and please do talk to her m.i.l. to see if she can help keep an eye on your daughter, just for now, until you are able to see her for yourself. *hugs*
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