Hi ~ I'm sorry you're having this problem. To me it sounds like your husband could either be incredibly manipulative or else he needs professional help. In either case, please do NOT feel like it's YOUR fault. Dont' buy into that, because your self-esteem will take an AWFUL hit like mine did for 26 years. My husband was extremely controlling due to his manipulation, and my self-esteem was non-existent by the time I divorced him 26 years later. It took a lot of professional help for ME to get it back again. So don't buy into the guilt. It's not your fault.

See if you can get him to the doctor for a checkup. First you want to be sure there's no physical reason for his outbursts/crying. Then hopefully the doctor can offer a referral to a good therapist -- someone for him to talk to about his problem.

I hope your hubby will be open about going to the doctor. You'll have to tell him it's for his own good and for the good of the marriage, or something like that.

I wish you the very best, my friend. I know this is extremely hard on you. Please take care of YOU -- and God bless. BIG hugs, Lee