Not much encouragement, but just wanted to say I feel the same way. I've had a couple of really bad experiences and now... just thinking about going on a date freaks me out. Part of it is not being able to tell which are the good guys and which are the creeps. But you already know that the one guy just wants sex... so avoid him. As for the other guy - if you like him, go out with him... but keep your dates out in public as long as you feel you need to. Don't invite him home -don't go over to his place if you think it could lead to something you're not ready for.