Hi Canacrip.

As I started to read your post, my initial thoughts were that your wife might be a little jealous over your relationship with your friend, and thus might feel scared or insecure. But then I read the rest of it...Cana, with the utmost respect for your wife, anyone who's going to laugh at you for being in a wheelchair (which crawls all over me...one of my best friends is in a wheelchair) and REFUSE to learn about your BP for the betterment of your relationship...I may be wrong, but I think the whole matter with your friend is a symptom, not a root cause.

Would she be open to any sort of couples counseling? She seems plainly cruel in her treatment of you, which isn't fair to you at all. Does she understand that you and your friend weren't anything more than friends? She has no right to shove phone records in your face for doing nothing more than having a friend...I could understand better had you two done more than a mere friendship, but otherwise, she is being unnecessarily cruel...and even if you two had, while I'd understand her position, this isn't the way to go about it.

I would echo the advice about seeking a therapist. You owe it to yourself to have a happy life, and I think a therapist can give you the advice and perspective that you need to start working towards having what you so deserve. Please know you're in my prayers, and I wish you my best.

Hugs,
Harley