NeverRight,

Thanks for sharing a couple of examples ~ They're great! Kudos to you for being honest in your recollection of events. :thumbsup:

In the first scenario, you described being very tired and related how your hub wasn't real talkative with you. Times like these aren't times to get into big discussions. You were already tired and frustrated when you sat down to supper. Add your hub's behavior (not really being present in the moment with you) and that's a recipe for disaster! Is this a description of daily meals together? I hope not.

From my perspective, I would have gone to bed after you first announced that you were really tired. However, I would have gone on to say that I was really missing him and looking forward to when he was coming into bed after me. Give him a wink, a slow kiss and say goodnight.

Your description sounds as though you didn't get the response that you were looking for when he told you "don't worry about it". It sounds like you're trying to be closer to him, and he became frustrated. LOTS of guys say that women go on & on, which frustrates them in those times. Of course, we go on & on because we feel that something else is there. We're just trying to figure things out ~ and the guys are trying to do _____. It is frustrating ~ but that's a very common cause of arguments between men and women.

In the second scenario, I got a little lost. I can understand the plan of going hunting with your hub and father in-law. I can also understand your cousin's wedding that you wanted to attend. After that, I got confused for a bit.

Did you ask your hub if he wanted to come to the wedding with you? Just because you both had plans to hunt doesn't mean that he wouldn't want to get to know your family a little better for a couple of days too. You both could have still gone hunting with the father for a couple of days after the wedding. Yes, you would have been together at both events ~ but aren't both events special?? He rarely sees your family. It could have been a good opportunity for them to get to know each other better & become friends. That's fun too!

Know what I'm saying? The 2nd event just sounds as though you assumed that you hub didn't want anything to do with your family. That he merely wanted YOU to be with HIM. Maybe that was part of it...maybe. But, it's not like you were arguing over going out to a movie with a friend or something. That's more of an insignificant event & your argument of wanting you both to have your own space is perfectly valid. I don't agree with your cousin's wedding being simply a special event between you & her, yet insignificant to your hub, as being valid though.

Very best wishes to you both ~ take care!