Forget my advise. Take the advise of age old wisdom passed down from generations to generations in an attempt to keep the next generation from making the same mistakes that they made. "A sow's ear, dressed up like a purse, is still a sow's ear". He has everything to gain from being with you, and you have everything to lose. As a friend said to me while I was in the clutch of a man with promises covering his awful deeds. "you are unevenly yoked and the cart will not travel much farther because only you are pulling the weight". Forgive him, try to understand him, but please let him do his own work and penance. Your involvement is not required. Sorry if I sound harsh, but it hurts to watch a friend walk into a wall. Lets say that he does come through to the better side of life......you can resume after he accomplishes this and offers you proof. Life is short. Be careful.