But if you can afford it in terms of both money and time, you should try sex therapy. Granted, it may never bring you two in complete agreement, but it can make your husband be game to your plan not 1 in 10 times, but, say 3 in 10 times, which would already be a signficant improvement. You may also want to repost under Sexual and Gender issues because you do not have any addiction issues. You have a garden variety mismatch of desire levels.