Krz and Rebel...You have voiced much of my own thoughts in this subject.
For now, for me, I've made it kind of a non-issue, pursuing my interests in my grad studies, my art and my teaching job. I know there is a void, but considering my previous experiences, maybe that is something I will learn to live with! That is not such a bad thing for me....A counselor once asked me, "Have you ever considered how much you could accomplish if you weren't focusing all your energy on these dysfunctional relationships?" I was totally devoted, giving all my energy to the relationships I tried to establish, only to be disappointed. Recovery was a longterm process. Now, for better or worse, I have focused on me, not selfishly, but healthily and trying to build my life alone. It is peaceful.
Patty