Sunmoonstars, I feel the same way you do, I'm 25-years-old and it's embarrassing that I am incapable of feeling comfortable in social situations. I've also wondered about Asperger's Syndrome and even autism.

Asperger's Syndrome sounds like my problem "Persons with AS show marked deficiencies in social skills, have difficulties with transitions or changes and prefer sameness."

I'm not sure how it's different from social anxiety. I've had so many people ask me why I'm so quiet, that I've come to expect people to wonder about me (which makes me more self-conscious since I feel like people are judging me!).

My shyness seems to be getting worse, I live alone...I fear I will become the old spinster with cats. I'm also extremely insecure about my appearance. It's hard to feel so insecure all the time.