In my family, I'm not so much included.. At family gatherings, it's always , the grandparents talk to the grandparents, my dad and my uncles talk , my mom and her sisters talk, and as far as the kids go .. there are three younger boys all around the same age who all run around the back yard playing together , my brother and my younger (but older than the others) cousin, are always kept up in their rooms playing video games. and then I have two baby girl cousins. ,,. who of course the rest of the family are obsessing over. .. and then there's me. ..I'm usually the designated babysitter when the adults want to go out. which i don't mind being with the kids, but it's like nobody sees me. They realize that I'm old enough to be trusted with the youngers.. but not to be in their "group". because I'm not old enough to get into the bar, or a club or anything. Which my mom does'nt drink, but she likes to go along to be included. ... and then I'm stuck at home with all the kids. ..It's like I'm invisible most of the time..